Solid Someone

Through hard times we seek guidance. We make an attempt to find reason in why certain things may be happening to us. We say, “Everything happens for a reason,” as a means of protecting our expectations. We find comfort in fictitious rationality. We spend so much time trying to protect ourselves. Trying to protect ourselves from disappointment. Trying to protect ourselves from pain. All of this ‘protection’ is a marathon, a marathon not worth winning. As we run, life chases us. If we don’t let it catch up, we run out of time to live it. When it all falls down, all we need is someone solid. Someone who can make you smile no matter what. Someone who can make you forget about everything with just one kiss. Someone who can just make nothing else matter. Ironically, this is often the same person we run from.

                I have a tendency to front like things don’t faze me as much as they do. In the face of adversity I take pride in challenging my obstacles head on. This is a tendency I think I share with many others. However, I do recognize when I need support and I know who to go to. I pick up the phone and there are people I know who can help me think straight, help me believe in myself, help me stay motivated, help me be me. But there is another level of support, the support we seek for the majority of our existence. A solid someone who you can lean on when you don’t feel like you can go on. Someone who doesn’t even need to talk to make you feel better, just their embrace is enough to reenergize you.

                Finding this person is like winning the lottery. Everyone has it in them to be this person for someone, but it is a responsibility we only wish to give to a worthy candidate. When we can be honest with ourselves and with this person, there is nothing to be afraid of, internally or externally. Honesty makes for a successful relationship. Honesty makes for fearless communication. Honesty means realness. Finding this person is a feeling second to none. This person is cool. You can talk about anything and everything. This person shares your interests. They make you feel warm when you need heat. They make you smile. You miss them the moment they leave the room. Their kiss is an inexplicably inspiring energy. They make you a believer.

                “My rock,” “My shoulder to cry on.” People realize the importance of this person, no question. But do they realize how long they search for them? Do they realize who it is when they have them? It’s arguable. Struggling through adversity and having someone there to help, whether they know they’re helping or not, changes everything. How can looking someone in the eyes make everything just seem so simple? Stumbling upon this real-life magic 8 ball is a gift that makes birthdays and Christmas forever insignificant. Fate? Destiny? Divine intervention? Believe in what you want to believe in. Karma? Maybe. Luck? Create your own. Solid.