Why do people start conflict over small issues?
I have recently noticed that some people have a certain need to start conflict. BUT if the individual they start conflict with is strong enough to come back at them, they get incredibly sensitive. Why? They start the conflict to try and come out looking stronger than the other person, but when the person comes back at them, if there are witnesses they will try and get pity by accusing the other person of instigating the conflict. They do this because they need to gain the satisfaction of being the alpha in way or another. If they cannot gain this satisfaction they will continue to instigate conflict over and over until they achieve what they want.
So next time someone starts conflict with you and you think its for no reason, you will know its either because they are insecure about their position in the relationship, or they are mad at you for something bigger but taking their anger out on you for something else. Goodluck.
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