Same Plane

There are many traits that make us human. Our personalities are made up of a plethora of different factors, each running on their own spectrum. The ‘Big Five’ personality traits are; openness to experience, conscientiousness, extraversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism. These are typically what we are measured on when we take personality tests. However, there is more to us than just the big five. If you look at all of us in terms of those traits on top of spirituality, sexuality, emotionality, mentality, physicality, intellect, curiosity, creativity, and ambition – we become quite a bit more complex. How rare is it to cross paths with someone whom we share similar points on the spectrum of all of these traits? And what happens when we do?

                Most of the people you associate yourself with will share many of these traits with you, but we are all individuals, so it is rare that you will share them all. We all develop our personality and character at different rates. A baseline is set early on in life, but we never cease learning, growing, and shaping who we are. Since this happens for everyone at different times/speeds, even if we meet someone we feel like we have everything in common with, that may not always be the case with that specific person. We have the ability to grow into and out of our relationships (romantic and platonic). But when you are lucky enough to meet someone on the same plane as you across all of your traits, that is a connection unparalleled.

                Our lives are filled with small talk, even when we see our best friends we have our conversational warm-up, “What’s goin’ on?” “How’s work/uni?” “How’s the girlfriend/boyfriend?” “What did you get up to on the weekend?” “What’s new?” There’s nothing wrong with that. It’s not that these things don’t matter, but when you share more than just common interests you can have a real, deep, conversation with someone and truly get to know them. Debates turn into an understanding and respect of each other’s differences. Chats turn into meaningful, in-depth conversations. You don’t just learn someone’s favourite things, you connect and you have an honest conversation and you understand one another’s innermost qualities and profound characteristics. You share wisdom and become familiar with more than just the surface of this individual. These are the people you talk to for five hours and it feels like 10 minutes. These are the people you trust most to ask for advice. These are the people who energize you to be the best version of yourself.